The Marriage Lessons I learned from Santa Clarita Diet

Netflix has been one of our ways to bond together everyday. Last year, we decided to subscribe and now we found a way to pay less by putting this account under our Globe consumables.

We were at Eskaya Bohol for 6 days last year and we get bored at night so we watch Netflix. That time, we can’t find anything interesting to watch but Santa Clarita Diet. It was gruesome and shocking for the first 3 episodes, I can’t bear to watch it so we stopped. Fast forward today, I just found ourselves binge watching this Netflix original series.. and I saw myself crying too many times. This isn’t even a drama series for crying out loud.

Joel and Sheila are married realtors with a teenage daughter. They have a quiet and normal neighborhood until one day, their lives have been changed when Sheila started to not feel well that eventually caused her, her family and whole Santa Clarita change.

I won’t discuss much about the story but I want to elaborate more on the lessons this series has taught me about marriage and family :

1. Love is about accepting someone who changes constantly. I heard this from too many movies and series before, “I stopped loving you for you aren’t the same person I’ve loved before.” It’s true. People change. It is expected. True love and a happy marriage should expect acceptance to the person you love and the many things that may change in the future. How drastic the change may be.. love should always be the answer.

1 Peter 4:8 – Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.

2. Your partner complements you. Do not highlight your spouse’s faults and limitations because it also means your weaknesses are as bad as his/hers. Your partner’s weaknesses define your strengths and his strengths define your weaknesses. So when someone is having a hard time, the other one should be ready to pick him/her up.

Ecclesiastes 4:9 – Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor : If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. If two lie down together, they will keep warm. How can one keep warm alone?

3. Marriage is partnership. You complete each other. Hurting words thrown at you are like shooting arrows hitting the other. Joy and goals met by you are like automatic success to the other. You feel each other’s pain and rejoice when the your spouse is celebrating. It is never a competition of who is better or best! Marriage is running the race TOGETHER.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 – Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

In your marriage, who is your 3rd party? 😉 It should be God only.

4. Look in his/her eyes. Whenever I see gruesome and disappointing moments to Sheila and Joel’s marriage, I just look in their eyes if they still look at each other with love.. and there are times that Joel can’t look anymore. This is why everytime I say I love you and compliment my husband and tell him serious things, I look in his eyes. I want him to see my sincerity and remember the moment. I believe that looking at someone’s eyes still means sincerity.

5. Just go with it. Marriage will definitely be harder as the years go by. It’s not happy and sexy all the time. Marriage is real life. It can go crazy and really stressful but as long as you have each other’s back.. as long as no one’s giving up.. just go with it!

Ruth 1:16-17 – Ruth replied, “Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go, I will go and where you stay, I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. Where you die, I will die and there I will be buried.”

Santa Clarita Diet is definitely not a Christian movie and not ideal for kids to watch either (we don’t allow them). But if you only read between the lines, be in their shoes.. you’ll see that there’s actually a lot of lessons to take in every episode. Cheers Sheila and Joel! I wish you the best.

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